Boundaries & self censorship


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Boundaries. Important for any relationship, from business to personal, and it’s important to identify them in the beginning and even as you go. But what about boundaries with yourself?

There are people that blog, tweet, or facebook EVERYTHING that is going on in their life. I know, everyone overshares sometimes, but I’m reminded of the quote that I heard so often growing up:

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

When I am going to mention my husband in a blog post, I tell him, give him context, even though I don’t get into anything specific in the post. Why? Because I think it’s important to note that not everyone wants to have their daily life logged online. Their space needs to be respected over my desire to vent.

Besides, I can save that for girl’s wine night right?

A more sensitve example… I’ve volunteered with children in emergency shelters, worked with abused people, and drug addicts. I’m not saying that some of those stories wouldn’t be valuable to share in the right setting, but posted online, for the world to see, isn’t always my place. I think that people need to know that you’re not going to run and post a video, or make a new status update based on the guts they just spilled. It’s already hard to trust people, let’s not make it harder by getting rid of trust in relationships.

4 personal censor rules for deciding NOT to post:

  • Would I be proud, not defensive, about what I posted?
  • Am I up for being held accountable?
  • Would I not want the person or organization to find this out?
  • How would I feel if this table was turned?

Would I be proud, not defensive, about what I posted?Am I up for being held accountable?Would I not want the person or organization to find this out?How would I feel if this table was turned?

If I answer ‘no’ to these items, the post doesn’t happen. Social networks are made to build, maintain, and grown relationships. Not to create burn books. We’re all over high school.

How do you decide what to post & what NOT to post?

The Wikipedia Effect

I subscribe to the paper. The Star Tribune to be specific.

Some people might find that peculiar since I’m a digital marketer, I blog, and I pretty much live online (so much so that my husband comments about my tweets sometimes).

Despite those things, reading the newspaper is one of the highlights of my week. It’s a time I dedicate to catching up on local and national news. In fact, it’s something that I have been focusing on making time for, which is connected to the ‘Relax Project’ which is a whole other blog post.

While reading the paper over the past year, I realized that it has everything to do with actually consuming the content I’m reading. I can say that because I noticed that when I read the news online, I no longer read.

Seriously.

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The Social Network- PART 1

Thanks to Social Media Breakfast (and Columbia Entertainment) I was able to attend an early showing of The Social Network. This movie has generated tons of buzz, at least online and in the news, and I was excited to get the opportunity to have an advanced showing of the flick.

The experience: Violated? Check.

I arrived at the theater with my husband, parked, stood in line, got tickets, and went to the theater entrance. Standing in front of our theater was security with metal detector wands, and tickets.

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Who am I? I donno, but do not just ask Google.

Today, if people want to get to know a client, potential employee, consultant or even a date, we can Google them. From there you might be able to see college activities, their current employer, wedding pictures or blog posts. However, there’s so much that Google isn’t able to find… even with their mad search engine and crazy connections to social networks.

To see what Google sees, I put my name into the search box and this is what happened: Continue reading Who am I? I donno, but do not just ask Google.

Social media can help leadership

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My current reading kick has been on leadership and non-profits. There are many reasons why I think a non-profit is successful, including it’s need in the community, the volunteers, passion, available funds, etc. But ultimately, it can come down to the people running the operation. Thier passion, respect, and drive to see it through can make or break the organization in times of crisis.

Social media and great leadership have much in common. Some people might think that social media is a self serving outlet for those that are misunderstood or (my favorite) can’t get any ‘real friends’. Ouch.

Where it’s cool to hear other voices

Leaders could learn a great deal from social media. Ultimately, everyone wants:

  • a voice
  • community
  • support
  • and conversation…

However, the people that don’t recognize the community possibilities are the ones that are losing the resilience factor. They see what it can be for their sole purpose, not a big picture. Most leaders in organizations are big picture thinkers and shakers. Tag on a little tweeting and blogging to that and you have comments and conversations that support, oppose and challenge your world. This can result in high accountability and support in a time of need. They put themselves in the light voluntarily, instead of being dragged in later when the going gets tough. By being an active participant, people get to know them.

Why do you think that (good/decent) managers and owners show their faces around factories and boardrooms? They want people to know them, and what they stand for, whatever it may be.

What’s wrong with a little public accountability?

I believe that people say that Gen Y-ers spend too much time online, or don’t have ‘real life’ skills. What if the definition ‘real life’ skills, is changing… or evolving. If I learned anything in school, it’s that 1) history repeats itself and 2) that the only thing for certain is change.

When you’re trying to get business, having a presence online can really make or break you. So, you need to invest in learning how to manage yourself online. Some of the Gen Y-ers can do this, from their phones (I can’t). Others are able to at least acknowledge that it’s a reality, but choose not to participate. That’s different than ignoring or pushing social media away because you think you’re bigger than that. FYI: If you can’t be found online, you might as well not exist.

Are you prepared to communicate online?

Great leaders are constantly listening and learning- what social media has become, a living, breathing, changing thing. We now live in a perpetually ‘beta’ world. Online communities are growing, dying, reviving and thriving. It’s a cycle- it repeats, but change is kept constant.

Who knew?

How are you preparing or growing in the online world to better your company or organization? How can you see leadership evolving with the online world?

Talkin’ Brazen and Non-Profits

This week I took some time to talk with Ben from MapTechWorks. Ben gathers information and interviews to post on YouTube so other non-profits can benefit from specialists and experinced tech workers. It was a blast and check out the finished product below:

MAP TechWorks – Brazen Careerist in the Twin Cities

Moving on, tweeting for a salary and customer service

*spo0ky*I have recently accepted a position that will have me Facebooking, tweeting, managing  YouTube accounts and several other marketing and communication tasks… I couldn’t be happier! However, it got me thinking about the stigma of these positions and how it’s always so much more than just updating Facebook and bit.ly links.

There are many facets to positions that manage a company’s social media outlets. While people are responding to customer questions and concerns, workers also organize and implement marketing campaigns that are apart of larger plans. However, I believe that many times there is one major section that isn’t seen- the role of customer service in social media.


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Google is taking over… and I am enabling them

This is going to be a series on how I use Google and all it’s products. I will be evaluating my use and potential positive uses of their products. Believe it or not, some of these free services could assist with homelessness, joblessness and overall community needs. Stay tuned for more.

Google is getting out of control, but can you blame the search engine giant? I mean it’s amazing what has changed in the past 5 years. They’ve gone from taking the search engine  title to having great email options, online documents, ways to share documents, photos, slide-shows online and more. It’s amazing what’s possible, and they are definitely the group to push copyright and legal buttons. I can’t blame them, they do it so well.

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Social media changed my networking and job search

There are many people and organizations out there that preach about etiquette and need to incorporate social media into your job search. I knew that, but I didn’t understand how until I had been really tweeting for about four months, had attended a few events that I heard about online and begun following people that really interested me. I only chose to dive in because I was still a new face in a big city. Moving from Nome, Alaska to Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN was quite a transition. I needed to get moving on my networking efforts because whatever I was doing, wasn’t working.

Currently, I blog for SocialMediaMarketing.com. I found this gig on Twitter- same thing with BridePOP.com. They tweeted about how they were looking for people to blog on certain topics, I direct messaged them, followed-up, gave them a link to my blog to use as a writing sample and the rest is history. Now I have my first post up on BridePop and I have written one post every week since mid-December for SocialMediaMarketing.com.

How is this different compared to my last freelance/writing gig search? A conversation happened. I responded – on Twitter – that I was interested. For me, it was similar to talking with a group of people and saying ‘I’m interested in ______ position. Can you tell me a little more on what you are looking for?’ I used my experience from job fairs and interviews and brought it online. It was like a preliminary round. They checked me out online and we moved forward. Fantastic.

Those things would have not happened if I hadn’t been participating in the conversation!

Here are also some ways I expanded my networking circle:

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5 reasons why I do not want to start my own business

Living, working and socializing in the Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN often leaves me hungry for adventure and entrepreneurial ventures. It’s not a glamorous life, but it’s a demanding, challenging and strategic one. I crave that.

However, at this point in my life between, rent, student loans and a pending wedding, I’m not about to get caught up in a new business.

Oh, and here are some pretty reasonable reasons too:

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